The Phone Call

Okay, so you managed to get up the courage to approach a woman, and wonder of all wonders, you got her phone number.

So now that you have those all important seven digits, what do you do next? Do you just call with no planning, or do you think about it a bit before you call?

Of course, the best choice is to give the phone call some thought before you actually dial her up and start talking.

First of all, you need to have an idea of where you want this phone call to lead. Is it just a get to know her better before deciding if you want to ask her out call? Or is it a call to ask her out on a bonafide date?

Knowing ahead of time what kind of results you want to get from your first phone call with her will really help you know what to say and how to steer the conversation in the right direction.

So being prepared is important. Besides knowing what you want to get from the phone call, do you know what you are going to say? Do you have some polite conversation questions to ask? There is nothing worse than getting on the phone with someone and finding that one or both of you has nothing to say.

You might want to jot down some little conversation starters, interesting facts or questions you can ask her about herself to get the conversation going.

You do not want her to think that having a phone conversation with you is like pulling teeth. It does not bode well for further conversations, and she may never return your call if you ever have the courage to call again.

It is also an important part of phone call etiquette to call her when you say you will. While most women profess that they don?t wait around for your phone call, if she really likes you, chances are she is staying pretty near the phone in hopes that you call.

So don?t say you will call on Thursday if you aren?t planning on calling her until the following Tuesday. It is a petty little game, and playing games is not a good way to start a relationship. Also, if she tells you a good time to get a hold of her, call her at that time.

This shows her that you are interested, that you were listening and that you do want to find out more about her. These things will all score you points with the lady in question.

Maybe you are one of those lucky guys who have more than one phone number of potential dates. If so, then you want to make sure that when you call a woman, the information you have is correct.

For instance, you don?t want to say something like, ?You told me you really like rock climbing? if she is the woman that told you she is deathly afraid of heights. When you meet a woman and get her phone number, jot down just a few little notes to remind yourself about who she was.

Last of all, make sure that you don?t have a lot of background noise when making a call. Listen to what she says, and know when to hang up.