Asking For What You Want

Okay, so you would love to see your girlfriend do housework completely naked.

Or you would like her to be the one to make the first move when it comes to sex once in a while.

You love it when she makes a pass at you and comes onto you, but she doesn?t do it very often.

Or maybe you want more oral sex in your relationship but aren?t sure how to go about it. The secret to getting more of what you like and what you want in a relationship is to ask for it.

Getting more of what you want in your relationship is not that difficult. It really is a no-brainer if you know how to go about it, because of course there is a right way and a wrong way to ask a woman to do more of something or to try something new.

Women are not mind readers any more than men are, so if you want something ask and see what happens. What is the worst thing that could happen? The worst thing that could happen is that she could say no, but she might just say yes. If you phrase it the right way, you up the odds of her saying yes.

So what is the right way to ask? The first step to getting more oral sex, more of her making the first move or simply more sex is to tell her how much you enjoy what you have now. Be specific about the things that you really like and that really turn you on.

Let her know how well she does certain things, and how much it turns you on. This way, she knows that you are happy with things between the two of you and your request will sound exactly like that, a request. You definitely don?t want to criticize or tell her what she is doing wrong.

Nothing is less likely to make her want to do something than being critical. The key to getting whatever it is you want is to create a positive atmosphere before you ask.

Alright, so you are getting more oral sex in your love life and she is doing better at initiating sex with you instead of letting you do all the work. So how do you get her to try something new like doing housework in the nude, or having her dress sexy and letting you pick her up at a bar like you don?t know her.

Or maybe you have some other kind of slightly kinky or super naughty little scenario you want her to try with you. Ask her to do it. Tell her how much it will turn you on.

Tell her you will make it worth her while to indulge your little fantasies. Let her know how sexy she is and that doing this only makes her more sexy.

Getting your needs and desires met in your relationship is something you should be able to expect. But you probably need to know that if she does these things for you; she is most likely going to want you to do a few sexy things for her. This is actually a win-win situation for you.