Pros And Cons Of Dating Your Ex

Sure, everyone has thought about dating their ex at least once or twice.

These thoughts are especially common if you have just gotten out of a relationship, or if you have been lonely for a while with a long time between dates and/or sexual encounters.

But is dating your ex really a good idea?

Does this mean that you will get a second chance to do things right, or does it mean you are simply doomed to have the same fights you did the first time? There are some pros and cons to dating your ex.

You simply have to decide if the relationship is something that deserves a second chance or if you should continue your search for someone else. Deciding whether or not to date your ex is a decision that should not be made without some thought about what you did and did not like about your relationship before.

Pros:

This might be a chance to see how you both have grown and changed in the time since you were together. You might find that she is a different, better person than she used to be, and she might just think the same thing about you.

If you had good sex before, this is a chance to see if you can bring it to even higher heights of ecstasy. You have a lot of things going for you in a sexual relationship you are comfortable with. It is easier to try new things, remember old tricks and generally feel like you are someplace that is familiar.

It is important to let go of any expectations you have about your ex. This lets you get past any remaining bad feelings and essentially start over. The advantage to this is that you get the experience of dating someone that is both familiar and new.

Cons:

You need to think about why the relationship fizzled the first time. If she was unfaithful, or a liar, or totally selfish, then you need to step back and see if getting into a relationship with her again is something you want to do. You might just end up making the same mistakes again.

Another thing to consider is what it is that you really want. How do you see your future in the next few years, and does she fit into that picture? What do you want out of a relationship? Can she actually provide these things? Being honest with yourself about what you want may lead you to walk in the opposite direction from your ex.

If you start up again with your ex, you are limiting the possibility that you will find someone else that is more suited to you. Getting emotionally connected with her again means you have to let go of meeting other women.

The fact is your ex may make you very happy the second time around. Or she might make you just as miserable as she did the first time. Second chances are by their very nature risky. You just have to decide if it is worth the risk.