Do Opposites Attract?

If there is anyone on the planet that has not heard the theory about opposites attracting, then they have been living in a cave for the past hundred years.

There are tons of couples that say they were complete opposites and are still totally happy.

There are also couples that have gotten together because of similarities that drew them together.

Everyone you ask has thoughts on the subject, usually based on their own personal experiences. Opinions range widely on the subject, with classic cases from movies and literature to support either side of the argument. Where do your feelings on the subject fall?

However, there have been studies done on exactly this subject. The results might surprise some people and affirm what other people already knew. Like tends to look for like. For instance, men and women who think that they are attractive will look for a partner that they also consider attractive.

People who are wealthy will often look for a spouse that is also wealthy. People that have an education will look for someone who also has an educated background. It seems that the things you most value in yourself are also what you look for in someone else.

This should not surprise anyone, actually. We all think that there are valuable, wonderful things about ourselves that members of the opposite sex should find incredibly attractive and be completely crazy about. So we instinctively seek out members of the opposite sex that also have those qualities.

This is because if someone else has the same great qualities as you do, you know they will value them in you because you value these qualities in them. So the old saying about there being someone for everyone is probably true because there is someone out there who has at least a few of the quirky qualities you do.

So the next time one of your friends wants to set you up with someone they know, try it out. However, if they are completely different from you, while it may be fun and refreshing, they may not be the right one for you.

Take stock of the things that normally attract you about women and see if you also have some of those qualities.

Of course, if these things are not positive things, you might want to think about changing some of them. Because if you think the things that are attracting you to women are unhealthy things that you also do, it is time to re-think what is attractive.

So while there are always those cases of total opposites finding themselves attracted to each other and having a wonderful relationship, in most cases, people seek out those that are like them on various levels. Compatibility is something that often makes for relationships that have less conflict in them.

These relationships also usually last longer and have a base on which to build a long-term future together. Don?t push someone away because they remind you of you. They just might be the perfect one for you.