First Time Sex

You have met a great woman, had numerous dates, and you have found yourself at that point that you have been waiting for all along.

You are going to have sex with her for the first time.

While it can be really wonderful, it can also be nerve-wracking because you don?t know what to expect from her or what she expects from you.

There are some things to keep in mind to make it a little less of a nervous experience and more of a fun and relaxing experience. First things first, you need to make sure that if you are bringing her back to your place, it should be clean. Not just kind of clean, it should be very clean.

There should be clean sheets on the bed, you should put away pictures of other women from your past, and pick up anything on the floor.

If you have a pet, let one of your friends watch them, and clean up the dog hair. Your bathroom should also be squeaky clean so that if she does decide to stay the night, she can get cleaned up in the morning without being grossed out.

If your place smells a bit musty, air it out and invest in a few nicely scented candles. Not only will your place smell better, you will also make her think you are romantic for having candles to light for your first night together.

Sex for the first time with someone should be all about each other. You need to focus on each other, and this is not the time to introduce your kinky fantasies, exotic sex toys or other offbeat bedroom interests. Getting comfortable with each other and exploring each other?s bodies is an important part of first time sex.

If you do this, sex can only get better because you are moving at a comfortable pace for both of you. You can always talk her into trying out some light bondage later in the relationship.

You should also be thinking about her pleasure. If you come before she does, you will probably not get the chance to try again. Ask her what she likes, and do it. Let her know what you like, as well. Be positive about what she is doing and do not criticize her technique.

Most of all don?t skip that post-sex cuddling. It is important for women, and most men don?t mind it at all. Having some quiet, close time after sex is a part of the experience, and it can really make it special for both of you.

When it comes to the question of staying the night or not, you need to communicate about it honestly and gently. If you have sex at her place, listen to her clues about whether or not she wants you to stay the night.

If you are one of those people that prefer to sleep alone, let her know upfront, and offer to meet her somewhere for breakfast. This will let her know you do want to see her again.